Nullius in verba
"Take no one's word for it"

People grow best where they continuously experience an ingenious blend of support and challenge; the rest is commentary.
– Robert Kegan, In Over Our Heads

Hi, I’m Tom and I write about design, software, introspection, and rationality.

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Myths about happiness 🌟

If there was ever one thing worth understanding deeply, it would be happiness. [...] Should I be so surprised when I'm unhappy, if I unconsciously believe it's impossible, or boring, or unfair to be happy?
13 April 2024 ◷◷

Parts are real πŸ‘

Somewhere in the last 2 years I discovered Internal Family Systems, and it's been one of the most impactful things I've learned. [...] Parts work is path to seeing the mind as more than a dumb machine of suffering [...]
21 December 2023 ◷◷

Against self-discipline

I used to believe self-discipline was unquestionably good and that more = better, but not any more. Here's why...
26 September 2023 ◷◷