From Mars is an index of articles and links I have put together in understanding more about my maleness and masculinity.

I grew up feeling quite disconnected from my gender, but as I’ve gotten older I’ve realised it’s very important to me. Sadly though, most discussion about maleness seems really, really bad. Conservatives are rarely analytical about gender at all, often viewing masculinity as a set of superficial traits that are cruel to others and themselves. Progressives, while having lots of interesting theory about gender, largely do not try to understand maleness—at worst, they hate and reject it. So, most existing writing about men is poor quality, or not even written by men.

This is sad, and I want to change it! I think a lot of people are looking for a new perspective on men, and on gender in general. This page is my contribution.

Thank you for visiting, and please browse freely 👐

Articles by others

(Order roughly by how fully I endorse them)

• DRMacIver’s Notebook: Masculinity as a source of sexual hang ups
• Get You A Woman That Likes Men - Eneasz Brodski
• Thinking about your gender – alexwlchan
• Children Believe Every Lie - Eneasz Brodski
• Dragonflight’s Kinky Dragon Sex (and also liking men) - Eneasz Brodski
• I Am A Transwoman. I Am In The Closet. I Am Not Coming Out. - by Jennifer Coates (If I remember right, Jennifer has since come out; the article is more prominently about her experience with her gender, in particular as a closeted trans woman in feminist spaces.)
• Incels - ContraPoints / transcript
• Men - ContraPoints / transcript
• Untitled - Slate Star Codex
• Radicalizing the Romanceless - Slate Star Codex

Other projects, websites, and personalities

• Three Hundred Ways It Can Hurt to Be a Man — Index
• Because it’s 2015 – Non-feminist thoughts on gender and men’s issues (notably “non”-feminist, not anti; generally sober and reasonable essays)
• The Nerd’s Quest: a journal of a nerdy man trying to learn more about dating and hook-up culture

Artists

• Sam Fender: northern British singer-songwriter who writes a lot about his experiences in working-class, male culture, particularly in Dead Boys and Seventeen Going Under

Social media / TikTok / Reels

• The Pointer Brothers (TikTok & Instagram: thepointerbrothers): goofy American masc sports humour
• Jonas Gindin (TT: jonybrony, IG: jonas.gindin): parodies of men stuff around dating etc.
• Erik Nagy (TT&IG: noteriknagy): American sports/hockey humour, parodies of jocks, etc.

Articles about non-men

To not lose sight of others’ experiences, I include some articles which I particularly empathised with:

• How to Lose - by A Lady on Fire
• You Have Such A Pretty Face - by River Selby
• Sanjana Ramachandran’s personal account of being sexual harassed