Nullius in verba
"Take no one's word for it"
People grow best where they continuously experience an ingenious blend of support and challenge; the rest is commentary.
– Robert Kegan, In Over Our Heads
Hi, I’m Tom and I write about design, software, introspection, and rationality.
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Favourite blogs: Sasha Chapin · Neurotic Gradient Descent · Numb at the Lodge
Favourite tech blogs: Dan Luu · Ted Kaminski
Other websites: X/Twitter · GitHub · Bluesky
Latest
When it comes to love, I think people have two hearts: the first wants to be seen as unique and special; it sees love as two perfect puzzle pieces fitting... ·
14 February 2025
Worm is a web serial about superheroes. It was written piece-by-piece between 2011-2013, with a chapter being uploaded twice a week, like clockwork, to a blog at... ·
5 February 2025
Best
I used to believe self-discipline was unquestionably good and that more = better, but not any more. Here's why... ·
26 September 2023
On benches, houses, and community managers ·
21 November 2023
Software »
16 December 2024
18 November 2022
This is a series about a research rabbit hole I've been going down over the last year or so, about a kind of incremental programming approach for games, UIs, and more [...] ·
30 September 2024
From Mars »
As a younger man, I never felt very well-connected with my gender. Being male seemed somewhat arbitrary to me, like a random coincidence, and sometimes it was a category I was uncomfortable with [...] ·
29 August 2024
Pretty much all of the emotional suppression I've absorbed hasn't come from traditional masculinity or patriarchy at all ·
11 June 2023
Other
Mathematics
The strange nature of the real numbers ·
11 January 2022
2 April 2019
15 April 2019
Self, introspection, & rationality
If there was ever one thing worth understanding deeply, it would be happiness. [...] Should I be so surprised when I'm unhappy, if I unconsciously believe it's impossible, or boring, or unfair to be happy? ·
13 April 2024
Somewhere in the last 2 years I discovered Internal Family Systems, and it's been one of the most impactful things I've learned. [...] Parts work is path to seeing the mind as more than a dumb machine of suffering [...] ·
21 December 2023
[...] The problem is I subconsciously don't recognise the incomplete thought as valid, so I don't hold onto it. [...] ·
17 January 2024
Dreams, butterflies, and finding true worlds ·
5 March 2022
6 September 2022
You've probably been told that it will relax and de-stress you. It's more about awareness collapse ·
12 November 2022
An overview of how knowledge is created, and its limits ·
22 October 2021
Software
Raymarching signed distance fields for creative coding·Running code at an average rate with a 'stretchy sleep'·Managing software installs on Linux·CRUD is fake; or, what should a data mapper look like?·What's the sign of C's remainder operator "%"?Miscellaneous
30 January 2024
Any child who has to spend a lot of effort learning how to fit in eventually learns that it's an endless game of losing. [...] ·
29 August 2023
I guess I'm afraid of everything falling apart. I'm afraid of needless pain and suffering. War that starts on nothing more than a misunderstanding. [...] ·
3 March 2024
19 September 2020
7 November 2020